Often we feel eager for that secure feeling of being cared for and that can muddy a submissive’s judgement. (Yeah, that means you can’t rush the process) Do these characteristics go out the window when things are stressful, or emotional, or are they integral parts of who this person is? You need to see them face adversity and show consistency over time in order to know their true metal. You couldn’t possibly know them for sure after a week of talking with someone. It’s probably a good sign if he knows where you went to college before he knows if you enjoy anal.Ĭonsistency- You’ll note that many of these things are traits you can only see develop over time. All the things a normal love interest would. He should show an interest in your hobbies, your family, and your favorite books/films. This is after all, first and foremost, a relationship. How does he react to a controversial blog post you show him? Does he shut it down immediately? A Dom who is thoughtful and open to learning will have a valid and well thought reason if he does.Īn interest in YOU- Look for someone who wants to know about you. (So will you.) His willingness to change his behaviors based on new information, and to grow as a person are very telling. Willingness to learn- Adaptability and enough humility to know that no man is an island is very important. He doesn’t need to raise his voice to feel heard, and when you do something like forget to call his default is concern and not anger. You’ll notice his focus under pressure is on how you’re doing, and on what step to take next. He behaves rationally in crisis and is quick to find solutions. This doesn’t mean he’ll owe you an explanation for every order until the end of time, but his transparency during vetting is very telling.Ĭalmness- A great Dom is cool under pressure. Most especially during vetting he should be more than willing to explain his reasoning. A great Dom will be open about his process, because he has your best interest at heart. Transparency/A willingness to explain- The whole “pay no attention to the man behind the curtain,” thing is best left in The Wizard of Oz.
These small truths or lies tell the story of a person who is either comfortable, or uncomfortable, with dishonesty. You won’t find him making up some story about why he was late for your date because his character is more important to him than saving a little face. A man who values honesty has no place for them. Those little white lies are very telling. Honesty- This should go without saying, but sadly it doesn’t. Is he quicker to apologize than he is to provide excuses? If he is someone who agrees a Dom sometimes needs to be humble, then you should watch and see what happens when he makes a mistake. Integrity- He says he values family, does he take the time to see and call his own? Men with integrity hold to their moral principles even to the detriment of their own comfort.
Reliability- Can you depend on him? When he says that he will do X thing, does he take concrete steps or is it just words? He says he’ll be there for you when you need him, does he call when he knows you have a big interview, or check on you when you’re sick without your having to pick up the phone first? Do you feel you can depend on him? A man like this is unlikely to engage you sexually on a first date. You shouldn’t feel as if you’re being dragged along by their wants and demands. They should also show patience with you, and a willingness to wait until they have earned your devotion and trust. Patience- Look for a Dom who is willing to build a relationship and doesn’t expect to materialize one from thin air simple because you are a submissive and they are a Dominant. Perhaps other people have their own ideas about important characteristics, but these are the things that are important to me. But it got me to thinking about the flip side to that equation, which of course is what should you be looking for? I’ve been asked this question a lot, and while it’s easy to say, just the opposite of what the red flags are, I thought it would be helpful to write a little something. I know I’ve written more than one myself. There are a lot of post out there about red flags and things to avoid when looking for a Dominant. Ĭharmeen Cantrece II seamless pantyhose 'longwear' 60er. Miley Cyrus Dons Disco Ball Nipple Pasties After Art Basel. Japanese Amateur Sex, Real Asian Swinger Couples In Sexual. Hot Busty Brunette Gets Fucked In pantyhose.ĭawn Desire PantyHose Clad Along With Lots Of PantyHose.